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In My Pursuit Of Finding that
Perfect Someone, I Made A Pretty Common Mistake—

I didn't see my own role in the patterns I was a part of in my own relationships. This led me through a series of relationships that ended up doing more harm than good. It negatively impacted my own mental health and created a lot of stress that bled into other parts of my life. I was anxious all the time and struggled to be able to focus on things outside of the relationship...

 Hi...I'm the problem, it's me...

It took me a while to see how these toxic relationship patterns were tied to my own behavior and how my attachment style impacted how I approached relationships.

Struggling to cope with the aftermath of these relationships led my current partner and me to seek couples therapy. In sessions with a therapist specialized in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, everything just started clicking. I began to grasp how my past experiences shaped my behavior in relationships, contributing to damaging cycles that kept repeating.

Discovering where I fit into this cycle and understanding my own attachment style unlocked a new level of closeness and vulnerability in my relationship, ultimately leading to an engagement with an incredible person. It was a journey that  taught me to tune into my own emotions and the transformative impact of having a skilled couples therapist by our side.

Now, my partner and I share a richer, more fulfilling connection. 

 We've become familiar with our patterns, creating a sense of security that empowered me to pursue a career I'm passionate about. I've embraced being a real-life example of how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has genuinely influenced and enriched my life.

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CERTIFICATIONS

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist 


AAMFT Clinical Fellow 


PhD Student in Clinical Sexology at the Modern Sex Therapy Institute 


Over 100 hours of training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Including focused training in working with high escalation, trauma, and affair recovery.


Member of International Center of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy

Obtained specialized training in the dynamics of Consensual Non-Monogamy (along with lived experience within the community).

Check out this sneak peek behind the scenes! These tidbits aren’t just about me—they’re the things that influence how I do my job as a therapist:

NEUROSPICY ADHDer: I am empathetic, compassionate, while also being supportive and nurturing.

ENNEAGRAM TYPE 2: I am direct, can multitask, pivot quickly, and harness the superpower of hyperfocus

FURRY AND QUEER: I am open-minded and accepting of all lifestyles and experiences

FAVORITE TV THERAPIST: Dr. Linda Martin - Lucifer. I love her directness and ability to see the positive in every demon.

Seen on BBC News & Reuters

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